Imagine a gift that can increase self-esteem, reduce stress, and can be given to anybody. Imagine a gift that can lift spirits, enliven inspiration, and even ignite passions. This ideal gift is not found by shopping online, or at the mall, or within the catalogs mounting in your mailbox. It is not something that fits into a bag or in a box, and it provides a feeling of warmth more fitting than a personalized pair of sox.
What is this perfect gift? It is a gift you give yourself – the gift of Forgiveness. By being forgiving of yourself, you can then accept yourself and be more responsible for your life choices. Self-forgiveness is the willingness to believe that you are worthy of love, respect, and great successes. There are dangers when we fail to forgive – dangers that have the potential to limit our relationships with others and ourselves. A failure to forgive yourself has the same consequences as a failure to forgive others. It can result in emotional bondage, uneasiness in your spirit, and a cloud of uncertainty about all your relationships.
6 signs you are stuck in a rut of guilt and regret:
When you feel unworthy, it affects your self-esteem and self-worth. You may find yourself lacking any self-love, instead becoming caught up in unresolved self-anger, self-hatred, and self-blaming.
When you cannot let go of your guilt and regrets, there might as well be a chain connecting you to them.
Until you resolve the issues that are weighing you down, you will likely experience feelings of helplessness and even depression.
When you are unable to forgive yourself, you might become self-destructive, punishing yourself and showing indifference to your own needs.
Your guilt may create a barrier between you and others.
Your fear of failure, due to constantly reliving the past, may cripple any attempts to move on from the event and forgive yourself.
The act of self-forgiveness changes the energy and the physical structure of your cells, and of your DNA. Guilt is a very powerful and deadening emotion. Guilt can close down the energy systems of your body, and thereby lessen the flow of healing energy and love for our self and for others. The lack of forgiveness is emotionally and physically damaging.
Sometimes the most difficult person to forgive is the one you face in the mirror. Some common situations that challenge self-forgiveness include: overwhelming guilt from a failed marriage, parenting errors, family and relationship mistakes, and poor financial decisions.
7 Tips to forgive yourself of past failures, mistakes, and disappointments
If you are tired of limits your self-condemnation places on you, you can do something about it. The past cannot be changed, and the future depends on the decisions you make today. Below are seven tips to replace those self-defeating thoughts.
Let go of self-anger
The effort it takes to maintain total disdain for yourself drains your time and energy, and it limits how you receive care from others.
Accept yourself as human
Acknowledge you are not an all-knowing and all-powerful super person. Everyone has slips in their reactions and actions.
View your mistake as a learning opportunity
Own your mistake. Understand the lesson. Learn from it.
Let go of fear of the future
Be willing to take risks. You now know differently, so you can choose differently.
Trust in yourself and your goodness
You are not a bad person, but one that simply made a faulty or hasty decision. The good is still in you. You have value to contribute to others.
Admit that hiding doesn’t heal the hurt
Trying to block the burden of shame and guilt only keeps it just under the surface. Hiding the hurt placed of yourself and others keeps you chained to the past.
Imagine the gains of moving forward
Picture yourself free from the guilt, regret and self- condemnation. Live in the moment.
Be intentional in new and improved decisions that open up opportunities for freedom and success.
If you are holding to a grudge toward yourself, I challenge and encourage you to let go. Contact Centerstone at (615) 460-4357 to schedule individual counseling services, which can assist in freeing you from the bondage of your protecting guilt – for any past regrets. Give yourself that gift today!
If you are in crisis, please call our crisis line, call 911 or visit the nearest emergency room.
If you're still having trouble and would like to reach out to someone about counseling or other Centerstone services, contact us.
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