Bullying is anytime someone harms/intimidates you—physically or verbally. If you, or someone you know is being bullied, TAKE ACTION by telling someone what’s happening. Find an adult or someone in authority and let them know the facts.
Bullying can affect everyone—those who are bullied, those who bully and those who witness bullying. Bullying is linked to many negative outcomes including impacts on mental health, substance use and suicide.
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WHO IS A BULLY?
Why do people bully, and what would cause someone to be so mean? Anyone can be the victim or aggressor.
Am I a bully?
- Bullies have an overwhelming desire to control others.
- They get satisfaction from dominating their victims. They like to be in control.
- They feel like they have to win at everything and get jealous when other people succeed.
- Bullies crave attention and will get it any way they can, and they don’t care about the consequences.
- They make up false rumors and mean nicknames.
- Some bullies threaten through hateful emails and text messages.
- Bullies feel good when they make someone else feel bad.
- Sometimes if a kid gets abused at home or in their neighborhood, they’ll become a bully somewhere else—like school.
- Sometimes people are bullies and don’t even know it.
Types of bullying
- Emotional Bullying uses verbal abuse such as name calling, sarcasm, relentless teasing, threatening, mocking, putting down, belittling, ignoring and lying.
- Physical Bullying involves things like kicking, hitting, biting, pinching, hair pulling or threats of physical harm.
- Racist Bullying is any hostile or offensive action against people because of their skin color, cultural or religious background or ethnic origin. It can include emotional, physical, sexual or verbal bullying.
- Sexual Bullying involves unwanted physical contact, sexual abuse or inappropriate comments.
- Verbal Bullying usually involves name calling, mocking and laughing at another’s expense.
- Cyber Bullying uses technology to harass victims at all hours—instantaneously.
What happens to bullies?
- Students who bully others are at increased risk for substance use, academic problems and violence later in adolescence and adulthood.
- Compared to students who only bully, or who are only victims, students who do both suffer the most serious consequences and are at greater risk for both mental health and behavior problems.
UNDERSTANDING OTHER CULTURES
When it comes to various cultures we have to learn, respect, honor and celebrate our differences. Staying open and tolerant allows us to take part in the all that our cultural diversity has to offer.
Elements of Culture
- Values and beliefs
- Communication pattern (language/dialect)
- Social relationships
- Diet and food preparation
- Dress and other body decoration
- Family traditions or customs
- Recreation and leisure
Becoming culturally aware
- Ask questions
- Research other cultures
- Be open-minded and tolerant of other cultures
- Try experiencing new things
- Volunteer with a group that is different from yours
- Don’t judge others
- Cultural differences should be viewed as strengths and not as weaknesses
- Cultural backgrounds have more in common than we think
- Prejudice occurs out of fear
- Different doesn’t mean wrong
- Distrust or fear of another culture comes from a lack of information
HOW TO RESPOND TO BULLYING?
Communicating is more than just talking and listening. It’s about understanding and being understood. If you, or someone you know is being bullied, tell someone what’s happening.
Talk to a trusted adult such as a parent, physician or counselor.
Call Centerstone at (888) 291-HELP to schedule an appointment with a therapist. If you feel like you need immediate help, please call (800) 681-7444 for 24-hour Crisis Services.