If you see it happening, it’s your responsibility to stop it. Tell a friend, teacher or parent. Only you can make a difference. Take the action necessary to squash bullying.
Bullying stops within 10 seconds of a bystander stepping in to help.
Never confront a bully by yourself. If you see someone being picked on, get an adult—maybe even a police officer—involved. Don’t be a passive bystander.
If you're being bullied:
- Tell someone what’s happening. Find an adult or someone in authority and let them know the facts.
- Make friends and stay in a group. It’s always safer to be in groups.
- Ignore the bully if they are harassing you. Bullies often thrive off of your reaction.
- Try to avoid confrontation—laugh it off if you can.
- Be confident, but be careful.
- Walk away from any physical danger.
- Stay away from areas where you know a bully will be.
If you see someone being bullied:
- Refuse to join in.
- Speak up. Let bullies know what they are doing is not funny.
- If possible, get a responsible adult to come immediately.
- Go to the person being picked on and help them leave the situation.
- Help the victim find an adult to talk to.
What should I do if I see someone being bullied?
As a bystander, be part of the solution.
- Don’t take part in bullying. Don’t stay to watch bullying. Don’t laugh along with or encourage someone who is bullying. Don’t provide an audience for bullying. Don’t join in. Don’t pass on rumors.
- Offer support. Be an ally to someone being bullied. Label the event as bullying. Say that it’s unfair. Talk to the person. Offer help. Stay with the person that’s being bullied until he or she feels safe.
- Take action against bullying. Help the person being bullied get away from the situation. Tell the person/people who are bullying to stop if you feel it’s safe. Distract the people/person doping the bullying. Get support from a trusted adult about the bullying.
What can I do if I went to an adult for help, but they did not do anything about the bullying?
Go to someone else and keep talking until someone helps and the bullying stops.
Welcoming body language shows you are friendly and willing to communicate. Whereas unwelcoming body language shows you are NOT interested in engaging with people.
- Making eye contact
- Holding your hand out to shake
- Relaxed arms and legs
- Leaning forward
- Closed arms
- Legs crossed
- No eye contact
- Making sounds
- Looking at your watch
- Leaning back
SHOW RESPECT FOR OTHERS
Let’s go back to that rule about treating others the way you want to be treated. What can you do to respect others? Having empathy means you can identify with what someone else is feeling. In other words, you can imagine what it would be like to be in that situation. So what does empathy have to do with respecting others? Say you know of someone who is having a hard time. Having empathy means you can see that person is struggling and you can imagine what that must be like.
HOW TO GET HELP
Talk to a trusted adult, such as a parent, physician or counselor.
Call Centerstone at (888) 291-HELP to schedule an appointment with a therapist. If you feel like you need immediate help, please call (800) 681-7444 for 24-hour Crisis Services.