Five Steps to Reunite a Lost Relationship
Home / Health & Wellness Articles / Relationships / Five Steps to Reunite a Lost Relationship

Five Steps to Reunite a Lost Relationship


Many people have relationships that have dissolved due to past differences. Perhaps you had a misunderstanding with your sister or feuded with your parents. Maybe you simply let a friendship slip away. Sometimes a bitter dispute from the past can keep loved ones from reconciling.

However, with some effort, you can begin to resolve conflicts and misunderstandings with friends or family.

These are the five key steps you can take to restore any relationship.

Know yourself

Before you attempt to contact a lost friend or relative, you should first assess your motive. Why is it is important to make this contact? Here are motives that may apply to your situation:

  • You realize life is too short to hold grudges.
  • You are willing to offer forgiveness.
  • You seek forgiveness.
  • You concede that you have not made an outreach attempt before.
  • You want to understand their perspective.
  • You want to communicate your feelings before it is too late.
  • You desire to regain the relationship that was lost and you are willing to compromise.
  • You acknowledge that there is no perfect time to reach out to the other person, and there is no time like the present.

Humble yourself

After you clarify your motive for reaching out to a former friend or disconnected relative, you are more prepared to humble yourself and accept the risk of being vulnerable.

You must also accept that there are no guarantees for reconciliation. The outcome of your efforts is uncertain. Do not let fear paralyze your life. Having the desire to reconcile without taking action makes you more vulnerable. By putting yourself on the line, you have a chance to get what you want. Learn to admit when you are wrong. The quicker we humble ourselves and admit wrongdoing, the faster we will be able to make peace.

Listen for understanding

There is no value in communication if shared listening is not the foundation. Take time to hear and understand the viewpoint of the other person. Withhold your opinions and truly seek to appreciate the pain or despair they may have also endured. Get rid of guilt trips. Defending your position while inducing a guilt trip on the other person will only reignite the flame that burned the relationship in the first place.

Offer forgiveness

Forgiveness is a powerful gift in any relationship. You must be willing to offer forgiveness if you truly want to move beyond the past.

Offering forgiveness does not mean you agree with the other person. By offering forgiveness, you do not allow your differences to rule your heart, mind and future. Remember, while you may be ready to reunite with your friend or family member, the other person may need time to think through your proposal and their response. Don’t rush the reunion, or the relationship may not have time to fully reconcile.

Have realistic expectations

Without realistic expectations, your hope for renewal will only lead to dejection. It may be unrealistic that your friend or family member will immediately proclaim their faults and beg your forgiveness. You cannot control their response or lack thereof.  You can prepare yourself to deal with their reaction. You are responsible for your actions and the way you live your life.

Reconciliation and restoration are powerful if they are base on authentic healing. No matter how the situation unfolds it is important to maintain dignity and respect for yourself as well as the other person. Move forward with your life and love the people you are with every day.

Related Posts


Combating Domestic Violence

What is Domestic Violence? Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner. The abuse may be physical, sexual, emotional, or include threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, ...


4 Steps to Handling Difficult Conversations

Difficult conversations can lead to anxiety, among many other things. We’ve all been there, though. Loud voices. Accusing words. Cold shoulders. Heated discussions. These are just a few signs of relationships and conversations that are on the verge of explosion. How we deal with these tough moments, in our actions and our language, is important ...


11 Tips for Happier Relationships

Whether romantic or platonic, listening may be the greatest contribution you can bring to your relationships. Listening strengthens relationships and demonstrates attentiveness, caring, and respect. Listening is more than just hearing, however. To truly listen, you must give your undivided attention and put your own agenda and needs aside. For many people, being able to ...


7 Tips To Fix Up Your Marriage

It’s gotten to be common knowledge that marriage ends in divorce almost half the time in this country. While marriage is good for a couples’ mental and physical health, it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. Because guess what? Every marriage is a work in progress. Wise couples realize that occasional relationship remodeling is necessary to ...


Six Secrets of Great Relationships

What are the essential qualities of a great and healthy relationship? Communication and conflict resolution skills are certainly at the top of the list. But there are other skills and simple secrets to keep your relationship healthy and thriving. Below are six to consider:   1) Share secrets   The best relationships involve friends who ...

Call Now