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Bullying

 

What is bullying?

Bullying is when someone makes another person feel bad. Bullies can hurt or threaten other people through actions and words.

 

 

What should I do if someone is bullying me?

Tell someone so they can help you. That someone can be any adult that you trust – parents, teachers, police officers, doctors, therapists.

Contact us to learn more about how to overcome bullying in your life. If you feel like you need immediate help, call the Centerstone Crisis Line nearest you.

 

What should I do if someone is bullying someone else?

Take action. If you see bullying happening, it’s your responsibility to stop it. Tell someone so they can help you – parents, teachers, police officers, doctors, therapists.

Never confront a bully by yourself. If you see someone being picked on, get an adult—maybe even a police officer—involved.

  •       refuse to join in
  •        speak up – let bullies know what they are doing is not funny
  •        if possible, get a responsible adult to come immediately
  •        go to the person being picked on and help them leave the situation
  •        help the victim find an adult to talk to

What is a bully?

A bully is someone who:

  • hurts other people to get their way
  • feels good about making other people feel badly
  • wants to control other people by making them feel badly

 

What kinds of bullying are there?

  • physical bullying – this means hurting someone’s body and includes things like:
    • hitting and punching
    • kicking and tripping
    • pushing
  • emotional bullying – this means hurting someone’s feelings and includes things like:
    • name-calling
    • teasing
    • laughing at someone
    • making fun of someone
    • threatening
    • ignoring and lying
  • cyberbullying – this means hurting someone using your computer or phone and includes things like:
    • social media
    • videos
    • texting
    • pictures

Why do people bully?

  • because bullies don’t know how else to control themselves or express themselves
  • because bullies think that bullying is the only or best option
  • because bullies don’t like people that are different than themselves
    • this might be because bullies are scared of different kinds of people
    • this might be because bullies don’t understand different kinds of people
  • because bullies want something that they can’t have without bullying, things like:
    • other people’s stuff
    • attention
    • sexual contact
    • power
    • respect from other bullies
  • because they are or were bullied by other bullies

 

What impact do bullies have?

People who bully and people who are bullied are at more likely to use drugs and alcohol, have problems in school or at work, and become involved with violence later in life. Bullies and victims of bullying are also more likely to suffer from issues with mental health later in life.


Being a teenager is hard. That’s why we have answers to a lot of common questions that teens might have – about mental health, drugs and alcohol, sex and relationships, social media and internet safety, bullying and more on our TEEN PAGE.


If you are a teen or parent in crisis, call the Centerstone Crisis Line nearest you now.

 

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Peer Pressure

 

What is peer pressure?

Peer pressure happens when a person influences another person’s behavior. It is a common part of growing up and makes choosing healthy decisions that much harder.

 

 

What should I do if I need help?

Contact us to learn more about peer pressure and how we can help. If you feel like you need immediate help, call the Centerstone Crisis Line nearest you.

 

What should I do if I’m experiencing peer pressure?

S.W.A.G. is an acronym to help you resist peer pressure.

Stop and say no

  • Stop – take a breath.
  • Say no – say it like you mean it. If the pressure continues, you have every right to leave.

Wait

If you’ve decided it is best for you to wait until you are ready to do something, this is a decision you should stick to.

  • Sex:
    • After you say no, you can give your partner a reason why. Some examples might be:
      • I’m just not ready.
      • I’m not ready to be a parent.
      • I don’t want to worry about STDs.
      • Our relationship is fine without sex.
  • Drugs and alcohol
    • If you are experiencing pressure to drugs or alcohol, some examples might include:
      • I don’t want to put that junk in my body.
      • I don’t need that stuff to have a good time.
      • I could get in serious trouble for doing this.
      • I care way too much about my future and don’t want to mess it up by doing this.

Avoid the situation and offer alternatives

  • Don’t put yourself in a situation where you might be tempted to have sex or use drugs/alcohol. Avoid high pressure situations (being alone with your partner when no one is home, being at a party with drugs and alcohol).
  • Alternatives – Think of some things to do instead of engaging in risky behaviors. Say, “Let’s go to the movies.” Or “Let’s go get something to eat.”

Get out

  • If you feel unsafe, be prepared to leave.

 

How can my friends affect my decisions?

Friends play a huge role in your life, so choose wisely when picking your friends. Falling into the wrong group can have serious consequences.

  • Positive Peer Pressure
    • Developing healthy friendships can help you in a number of ways.
    • Positive peer pressure can motivate you to succeed and encourage you to make healthy choices.
    • Your friends can act as positive role models.
    • ​They can listen, accept and understand the frustrations, challenges and concerns you have.
  • Negative Peer Pressure
    • A lot of people want to be accepted.
    • Making friends is a way to feel like you fit in. But if the friends you choose make unhealthy choices, you may feel pressured to make those same decisions.
    • ​Negative peer pressure can motivate people to make unhealthy choices and engage in risky behaviors like smoking, drinking and having unprotected sex.

Being a teenager is hard. That’s why we have answers to a lot of common questions that teens might have – about mental health, drugs and alcohol, sex and relationships, social media and internet safety, bullying and more on our TEEN PAGE.


If you are a teen or parent in crisis, call the Centerstone Crisis Line nearest you now.

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