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8 Tools To Tune-Up Your Relationship

All couples face hardships. In fact, most relationships don’t work out. Don’t be another statistic. Try these relationship tools instead.

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Have you ever lost your keys and felt helpless to go anywhere? When you found them, were you relieved to no longer be stuck?

Sometimes we can feel stuck in our relationships. As if there is no one in the driver’s seat and no one knows where the keys are, feelings of frustration and despair soon follow.

All relationships go through some shifts, bumps and curves. But when left unattended, they can depreciate in value for both people involved.

Instead of an attempt at a hasty trade-in, why not give your relationship a long-overdue tune-up?

Pull over, fuel up and use these eight relationship tools to get you going:

1. Get out of neutral

In a car or in a relationship, remaining in neutral will not get you very far. To get moving forward and out of that rut, shift your relationship into overdrive.

To do this, you must be active, involved and fully participating.

Oftentimes, couples become too comfortable in their relationship and just give to it whatever is leftover at the end of the day.

They fall asleep at the wheel, so to speak.

To excel and to grow together, you must first get out of neutral – both in attitude and in actions.


2. Be a responsible driver

What if you were the only one who knew about the faulty transmission?

Would you keep cruising around, stubbornly not taking responsibility for the needed engine adjustment?

If you wait for the other person in your partnership to fix a problem, you may be waiting for a long time.

Especially if they don’t even know there is a problem.

Be a responsible and accountable co-driver in your relationship by seeking solutions to repair problems as they arise.

If you ignore the rattles, they will not likely just go away on their own.


3. Use your turn signal

If you don’t indicate your needs, desires or intentions, how will anyone know where you want to go?

Communication is the “oil” in any relationship.

Communicate openly with your loved one. Don’t assume he or she knows what direction you want to go in.

Share your need for more closeness, or more alone time, or more family road trips.

Using your “turn signal” may also be an encourager for others to do the same.


4. Fix the small dents

If you wait until all the tires are flat before you take your car in, you could cause more damage.

Address little misunderstandings and disagreements before they turn into major issues.

A small glass chip from the rocks of the road left un-patched can cause the breakage to branch out in all directions, and over time, it may even cause a collapse. In some cases, the lack of resolve in the minor dents and dilemmas of relationship problems can lead to downhill deterioration of the friendship.

Address the squeaky brakes before all control is lost.


5. Protect your investment

If you allow outside stormy forces like meddling from family, work stress, high-maintenance friends or other demands to affect your relationship, you are more likely to crash.

Some environments can be toxic to a healthy relationship.

Protect your investment.

Protect your relationship like it was a prized collection piece.

Be aware of how other things outside the home can invade and infect your relationship.


6. Schedule ongoing maintenance

It is essential to establish an ongoing maintenance plan for a strong relationship.

If you never got tune-ups for your car, your time, energy and money would be drained for relentless repairs. It would slowly deteriorate and just take up space.

Likewise, not being preventative with the direction of your relationship sets the stage for dissatisfaction and complacency, and possibly resentment.

Make it a priority to schedule regular time to focus on just the two of you.  Then when major challenges arise, you will be more prepared to deal with them and get back on track.


7. Give the right of way

Just because drivers may have the right of way on any given road does not mean there are times they don’t need to yield to others to prevent a collision.

Being “right” about any issue in a relationship does not override the fact that there must be some yielding in order to safely share the “road” – yielding to compromise or appreciating his or her perspective, or need.

Give the right of way and focus on the overall partnership trip.


8. Take it to the shop when needed

If the road has become too rocky for the two of you, seek a professional.

Pullover to the side for a little while to refuel.

Ask for directions.

Just because you’re a car owner doesn’t mean you can resolve any and all auto breakdowns.

Some common issues in life leave us feeling like we’re in a blizzard and have driven off a cliff – like illness, accidents or job loss.

Know when you need help as a couple and ask for it.  Know when you need more tools to tune up your marriage, and a smoother journey is right around the corner.


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