Every person has had a disagreement with someone they love, but that does not mean it is the end of the road or the relationship. People have different opinions, and it is perfectly normal and okay to disagree with the people you love—even your partner.
Though disagreements are a common part of life, less common are shared insights about how to navigate conflict in a healthy way.
“The important thing to remember about having disagreements is that it is you and your partner against the problem, not you versus your partner,” says Tracey Lickfelt, Vice President of Outpatient and Engagement Services at Centerstone.
No two couples are the same, but some of the more common situations they disagree about are finances, parenting styles, communication problems, and spending time together. These are normal everyday conflicts, but making sure they happen in a healthy way is the more difficult part.
“Unhealthy disagreements may look like placing blame, making assumptions, bringing up past issues, name-calling, controlling the outcome, or avoiding the conversation altogether,” says Lickfelt.
Here are some healthy practices to use the next time you and your partner disagree:
Partners that can learn to communicate in healthy ways will be more likely to find healthy ways to disagree with each other. Be aware that it might take time to develop these techniques, so don’t get discouraged!
If you or someone you know is in need of healthy communication skills, Centerstone can help. Call 1-877-HOPE123 (1-877-467-3123) for more information.
If you are in crisis, please call our crisis line, call 911 or visit the nearest emergency room.
If you're still having trouble and would like to reach out to someone about counseling or other Centerstone services, contact us.
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