A common misconception about motivation is that you either have it or you don’t. We’re often told that if we just try harder, stay positive, or wait for the “right” moment, motivation will appear. But in reality, many of these well-meaning beliefs may actually be working against us, leaving us feeling stuck or even discouraged. The truth is that motivation isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience.

Myth #1: You’re either motivated or you’re not

Truth: Motivation fluctuates and isn’t a set characteristic. Our levels of motivation can ebb and flow depending on factors like stress, mental health, sleep, and our environment.

Try this: Instead of asking “why am I so unmotivated?” try asking “what might be effecting my energy and focus right now?”

Myth #2: You have to wait until you feel motivated to start

Truth: Waiting to feel a sense of motivation can often lead to procrastination. Sometimes, the motivation comes after you start the action. Taking that first step, even when you don’t feel ready, can help build momentum.

Try this: Start with a condensed version of the task. Once you start, your motivation will naturally build over time.

Myth #3: Rewards increase motivation

Truth: While rewards can be helpful in some contexts, relying on them too much can reduce intrinsic motivation (the internal sense of purpose).

Try this: Reflect on why the goal matters to you personally.

Myth #4: Motivation is enough for success

Truth: While motivation is crucial, things like skillset, a supportive environment, and goal alignment are all necessary for success, too. Without structure and support, even the strongest motivation can eventually burn out.

Try this: Look at what support or tools may make your goal more achievable. Whether that’s breaking it into steps, adjusting your expectations, or asking for help.

Myth #5: Motivation is universal

Truth: What motivates one person may not work for another. Our values, life experiences and mental health all shape what drives us. Comparing others’ motivations to your own can lead to unnecessary frustration or even self-doubt.

Try this: Pay attention to when you feel most engaged or energized and use those indicators as a guide.

Myth #6: Competition and fear are good motivators

Truth: While both can be useful for a quick burst of motivation, they are not effective in the long run and can increase feelings of anxiety and demotivate you over time.

Try this: Focus on progress rather than comparison.

Myth #7: External motivation is enough

Truth: While a supportive environment is incredibly valuable, it cannot replace internal motivation. Lasting change often happens when external support works in tandem with personal momentum.

Try this: Check in with yourself about what truly matters to you – not just what others expect.  

Letting go of these motivation myths can create space for a more realistic approach to personal growth. Remember that progress doesn’t require constant drive or perfection, and it often starts with small steps. If motivation feels out of reach for you, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Centerstone is here to help. Call us at 1-877-HOPE123 (1-877-467-3123) or visit our website to get connected to care.