7 Tips To Fix Up Your Marriage
It’s gotten to be common knowledge that marriage ends in divorce almost half the time in this country.
While marriage is good for a couples’ mental and physical health, it’s not always sunshine and rainbows. Because guess what? Every marriage is a work in progress.
Wise couples realize that occasional relationship remodeling is necessary to stay happy together.
To keep your relationship on solid ground, check out these seven tips:
1) Beware of foundation failure
A home’s strong foundation keeps it standing firm through all seasons.
Many times, couples forget to maintain the foundation of their relationship, and that can lead to breakdowns and built-up bitterness.
Qualities such as kindness, respect, compassion, honesty, and friendship are at the core of all great relationships. Values such as faith, family, and commitment can help steady a couple when times are tough and unexpected problems pop up.
Beware of foundation failure by focusing on what helped you build a genuine friendship in the first place.
2) Reduce toxins
Some relationships need an extreme makeover due to toxic patterns and behaviors. Angry outbursts, name-calling and other forms of emotional abuse can be lethal to a marriage.
Lacking an effective conflict resolution plan is like spreading toxic smoke throughout the home. Parents who fight in front of their children contaminate their sense of safety and love. Holding grudges and carrying lists of your partner’s wrongs is like putting poison in your own morning coffee.
Eliminate the toxicity of your attitudes and behaviors to enjoy the richness of a healthy relationship.
3) Keep it fresh
Value your marriage investment by keeping it fresh and fun.
Break boring patterns, and kick up the fun factor for your family. Think of ways you can upgrade your time together. Be creative, and try new things: Visit new places, eat at different restaurants, meet new friends or find other fun things to try.
Just as a fresh coat of paint can revive a room and new carpet can revamp the whole appearance, keeping a relationship fresh can revitalize stale habits into stimulating times.
4) Measure your words
People in the construction industry commonly say, “Measure twice, cut once.” By rechecking their measurements, they avoid costly mistakes.
Couples who speak before they think can cause costly damages as well. Everyone has days of frustration or disappointment that can lead to negative thoughts about their partner. It is crucial to calm down before speaking with words of mass destruction.
In the heat of any crisis, be sure to measure your words first.
5) Do preventative repairs
You wouldn’t wait until the roof blew off your house before addressing falling shingles, would you? Likewise, you shouldn’t wait until your relationship has completely fallen apart before addressing problem areas.
Perhaps you have ongoing quarrels about who is responsible for particular household chores. Or you have become less patient with each other. Or maybe one partner has a new work schedule that has been a challenge for the whole family.
Ignoring problems and trivializing your partner’s needs can only lead to a slow erosion of love in the relationship.
6) Know when to hire a professional
Sometimes we get in over our heads when it comes to life’s traumas and challenges, and sometimes we can’t fix it on our own.
I am sure you would hire an automobile professional to restore your car after a minor crash, or you’d call a plumber if you were drowning in your basement sewage.
We all go through personal and relational difficulties that can put too much pressure on the best of relationships. Parenting your children or caring for aging parents can cause much stress. Grieving the loss of a friend, a job or even a dream can be a debilitating process when going through it alone.
You can partner with a professional counselor to help restore your relationship or recover from the potholes of life.
7) Go green
Always remember your natural resources and the assets you bring to the relationship.
Focus on your strengths, your skills, and your resilience. Each partner is unique and individual and offers abundant value in the power they have within.
Similarly, you should focus on each other’s internal greatness before looking for external fillers to boost the growth in your relationship.
Maximize the energy of your marriage by going “green” today. Recycle great memories, traditions, and healthy relationship patterns.