Do you notice ANTs every time you go into your kitchen? Or do you seem to have more ANTs in your car or at the office? I’m not talking about the tiny social insects that tend to show up at every picnic or can be found in your teenager’s bedroom. I am referring to the ANTs, or Automatic Negative Thoughts, that jump into your head, pushing all the willpower and positive thoughts you need to reach your goals to the wayside. ANTs, even the smallest ones, can sabotage your resolutions.
People with good emotional health are aware of their thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Learning to listen for and recognize self-destructive thoughts is the first step to conquering them.
ANTs usually fall into the exaggerated or all-or-nothing category. They start with lines like, “I should have…” “I can’t…” or “I’ll never…” The result is stress, a bad mood and other negative emotions that keep you stuck – stuck in your rut and stuck in your tight pants.
“I don’t have time to cook a healthy meal.”
“I’m never going to be able to quit smoking, so what’s the point?”
“I will never have time to exercise as I should.”
The solution is to learn to talk back to your ANTs and shut them down before they can send you down the wrong path. Replace them with words of support and encouragement.
While it may come easier to put ourselves down and let these ANTs raid our lives and challenge our effort, we can do something about it! You wouldn’t talk to your friend in such an insulting way, so be just as kind to yourself. Once you begin to notice and challenge negative thoughts, you will form new habits of replacing them with words and actions of care and support.
If you are in crisis, please call our crisis line, call 911 or visit the nearest emergency room.
If you're still having trouble and would like to reach out to someone about counseling or other Centerstone services, contact us.
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